In a couple of months, my son will be heading into his teenage years….I AM SCARED TO DEATH!!! I don’t fear it because I think that my child is a bad kid…He’s far from it. I’m scared because I know all of the things that I did, as a teenager, and luckily survived. I wasn’t a bad kid either…GOING IN…but things changed, friends change, and people change. I also know that my mother suffered through those years and I am the one who made her.
Once I was in high school, it seemed like we lost a student in a car accident or at some party a couple of times a year. You still hear about those things now every day. That could have been me EVERY weekend. I just don’t want that for my children. I just don’t want that for my wife and me either. There is nothing that my mother could have done differently back then to change the way I was. She did everything that she could to set me straight and I just wasn’t having it or helping her at all. It just seemed like anytime I was near my family I was angry. They didn’t do anything to deserve this at all and I LOVE MY FAMILY. It was just the way that I was feeling as a teen. There was nothing like being with my friends or being with a girl. I felt like a Rockstar and no one could touch me or talk me off of my stage.
I survived though. I have apologized to my mother over and over about the way that I was in those years. I made my mother hate me. Not me, but the way that I was acting. She loves me again…I think. LOL, I know she does. We have talked many times about those years. I just look back and think about some of the things that I did and some of the places that I went. How did I survive?
So, this all brings me back to my original point. I AM SCARED TO DEATH! What kind of conversation can I have? What can I say that millions of others haven’t already said before me?
We have tried to have an open door with our kids. We let them ask us anything and we will answer. We invite them to tell us things that they have done. Sometimes there are consequences but they know that they can tell us anything. We talk to them about being bullied and we TALK TO THEM about NEVER BEING A BULLY!!!!! We have great discussions and I am hoping that, as we get into these soon to be teenage years, we get a little pay off and a sign that things will be Okay. I know that they are going to get into situations that they feel like they need to get themselves out of and that’s great. I just want them to be able to make the right decisions when it counts and know when to call me to help out. Again, there may be consequences but that is something that we can all live with.
I guess, what it really boils down to, is that I love my children and I worry about them all of the time. The teenage years will be tough but I have a feeling that it will be rewarding as well. I guess we’ll see.